Get Your Ex Back Without Waiting Weeks
Saturday, March 28th, 2009A lot of books on how to get your ex back basically say the same thing. Wait 30 days or more and have no contact. Then contact them again and see if they want to get together. The hope is that after 30 days they will have gotten over their upset and lost their anger towards you.
This approach is based on the theory that time heals all wounds. You know, when they dumped you they were upset, after four weeks or so they wont be mad anymore. Further, the hope is that they will feel more like forgiving you and will have started to miss you some.
The wait 30 days method to try to get your ex back can work best in some situations. Unfortunately, it can also cause some big problems. They can harden their heart to you during that period. And, of course, they can start to date someone else.
To avoid these problems you will need a different approach. Your specific approach will vary based on the reason you split up, but there are some general methods you can use to fix your relationship in hours not months.
Let’s say that you wronged your mate by cheating on them. They kicked you out last week, saying they could never trust you again. This is completely understandable. They are mad, feel betrayed and hurt. Of course they don’t want to be in a relationship with you.
Well, to get them back, one of the first steps is to realize that feelings change. They are mad about a specific incident. They will get over it, maybe in a year or a month, they won’t be that mad forever. But feelings change.
The next big thing to realize is that YOU can help their feelings to change quickly. This is the key to getting your ex back without waiting weeks. Two ways to help them do this is to help them vent their bad feelings by getting them off their chest, and to make a certain kind of apology.
Combine these two methods and you can often have a breakthrough in getting your ex back fast. They can release their bad feelings and start to move towards wanting you back. You can often get your ex back in hours or days if you apologize in a certain way and help them to vent their bad feelings. You don’t need to wait months.